Self Inflection

“Tell me how you could not think of something that changed every bit of you?”

This was once said by my friend when I told him to stop thinking of the person who hurt him.  Sounds dramatic but for me its funny.  Can a man really change another man?  Or it is just a self inflection?  Do we an option?

These questions run into my head after he said that.  Personally, I don’t believe that as a human being you can changed another human being.  For example in a boy girl relation or what so ever, they always say that, that guy or gal changed me. Did the persion really change you? Or you’ve change because you wanted to? You’ve change because you wanted to get their attention whether it is for your own good or not.

There are really factors that will make us change but it doesn’t mean that we have to change because of those factors.  I believe that we always have the option to choose for ourselves.  You can never stop a drug addict to use illegal drugs not unless he chooses to stop by his own.  No matter how many rehabs he take you can’t do anything about it.  He has to decide for hisself whether to change or not, not unless if his insane already that his brain could no longer function to decide.  For me as long as you still have the sanity you could always have the freedom.  

Everything that we feel and think are all self inflicted.  We feel the pain because we think about it.  We change because we wanted to, we wanted to get somebody’s attention and appreciation.  We feel sad because we dwell in the past or to the factors that causes it.  There’s no such way that another human being could tell you what you should feel or change you.  It always start from our selves if we are willing to accept the factors that we need to change or feel then we are going to change or feel it.

Note this is just an opinion.